I absolutely hear you - sometimes it's almost unbearable to watch both parents deteriorate to the point where one has almost no cognitive function at all and the other doesn't know where he is or what he's doing and barely who I am. Even though we 100% made the correct decision at the right time...
Now that is interesting. We visited Middleton Grove and found it to be the most awful place imaginable, dark and dingy, alarms going off all over the place (not answered) and inhospitable. Both myself and my sister came out saying we would send our parents there over our dead bodies. I'm not...
Both my parents are in Fairdene Lodge care home. I couldn't recommend them more highly. Plenty of staff, very homely feel, loads of activities provided, visiting actively encouraged and a light, airy ambience. It was the hardest day in my life leaving both parents (they both have dementia) there...